The answer to “I don’t know what to do with my life or career!”

The answer to "I dont know what to do with my life or career!"

Expressing your purpose is the key to your life and career

“I don't know what to do with my life!" How to gain clarity of purpose

If you are frustrated and asking “What  do I do with my life or career!” the answer is actually simple. All you need to do is identify what your purpose is and how to express it.

We will learn how to do that here.

Lets start by defining what your purpose is: Your purpose is the expression of your identity.

Your identity is who you are on a deep level. It consists of your deepest hardwired values, beliefs and subconscious mind.

What is the best way to get clear about your purpose?    

  • For the majority of people, the best way to express their purpose is typically through their employment

  • By uncovering the career path you are meant for, you go a long way to get clear about your purpose

Lets take a look at how you can do this. 

The simple answer to "I don't know what to do with my life" is to identify your career purpose

If you don’t know what to do with your life, look to what your career mission is.

Your employment mission is typically the best reflection of your purpose, because:

  • Being in the right career is a place where you can find fulfillment

  • The right career is where you can best express your identity and apply your talents

  • Your career is where you can thrive within your peer work community

  • Employment is something you derive your livelihood from

So it makes sense to establish what you should do for career fulfillment. Let’s get started.

If you are ready to discover what your career purpose is, my step-by-step career self assessment shows you how.

In this article, The answer to “I don’t know what to do with my life or career” you will learn how expressing your identity can be the key to your life and career purpose:

To help you to figure out what to do with your life and career, this guide covers: 

"I have no idea what to do with my life or career!" - How to clear away the confusing advice

In looking for the answer to figure out what to do with their life, many people search in the wrong places. Let’s get you clear about how to identify your purpose, so you can avoid the confusing advice out there.   

To identify your purpose, the answer is within you, not outside of you. You only need to listen to your internal systems.

Then you can uncover the employment you are already meant for by divine right.

Unfortunately there is a lot of confusion in the advice out there about how to identify your career purpose. This may have you chasing rabbits all over the place!

All the suggestions out there may be causing you uncertainty. They may cause conflict with your internal instincts about what to do with your life.

That changes now.

Stop chasing everyone else's advice to look outside yourself

Based on the information that’s available online, you can’t be blamed for being uncertain about your purpose or career.

Most advice about what to do with your life has you looking outside yourself, for external conclusions.  

For example, if you research online for 5 minutes, these are just a few of the suggested solutions to find your purpose:

  • Look for meaning through philosophy

  • Analyze yourself with psychology

  • Use scientific thinking to reach a rational answer

  • Take psychometric tests to determine your personality, aptitude and interests

  • Seek religion as a means to define your purpose

  • Find your purpose by being a martyr to “make an impact” for some kind of social justice or “noble cause”

  • “Get out of your comfort zone” by volunteering to help others

  • Create a vision board from images you cut and paste from magazines and online

  • Some even suggest you try magic crystals, oils, spells, quotes, Ouija boards and other gimmicks

Whoa. Wait a minute.

Why are there so many different solutions that want you to look outside yourself with psychology, religion or charity?

And why do so many of these solutions imply that your purpose has to be some kind of selfless martyr, or you have to ‘make an impact?’

Until you know what your purpose is, none of these solutions make sense.

Worse, many career advisors recommend you psychoanalyze yourself with personality tests to learn what to do with your life or career. Measuring your mind like this only puts you into a category box:

personality tests can put you into a box

Personality tests can trap you in a box

If you want to truly clear the way to your career purpose, you need to understand the limitations of the above solutions.  

Why? Because what these solutions have in common is they all depend on external systems to define your internal purpose. They are recommending you look outside yourself for answers.

The practical way to discover your career purpose is actually just the opposite.

You only need to listen to your internal mind and intuitions. Then you can uncover the employment you are already meant for by divine right.

Finding your purpose

Your purpose is the expression of your identity. Your identity is the values and beliefs that make you unique.

So finding your purpose needs to center around identifying your values and how to best express them.

This is why all my career discovery courses and career workshops include identifying your values. They are the foundation of defining your career destiny.

You do not need to look outside yourself like so many solutions suggest:

  • You do not need to give up your own happiness for the greater good of others

  • No, you don’t have to “save the world”

  • You don’t necessarily need to adopt an external philosophy, religion or scientific process to find your purpose

  • You do not need to psychoanalyze yourself with psychometric tests

You just need to assess your own values, beliefs and talents to uncover the career path that is your purpose.

Do what your purpose says you are meant to do

Unfortunately, many are conflicted about what to do with their life because they allow outside pressures to confuse them.

They end up chasing what they think they should want, instead of what they are meant for.

My career destiny proverb explains the difference between what you want and what you are meant for, in this way:

the career you are meant for

Is it normal to not know what career you want?

If you feel pained that you don’t know what to do with your life or career, be comforted. It is perfectly normal to not know what career you should have. Most people do not.

  • At any given time, more than 45% of the working population don’t feel happy with their career choice and are looking to change careers

  • For every Elon Musk and Tiger Woods who knew what they wanted to do at 11 years old, there are millions who do not have a clue what to do with their life

  • Every adolescent goes though the identity stage, where they need to work out and adjust to their identity (unfortunately the digital sphere can distort their beliefs)


If you are sad that you don’t know what to do for work, you are not alone. It’s a common ailment. With that said, how do you identify what your employment purpose is?

Answering "I don't know what to do with my life' - The right questions to ask yourself to find your purpose

I am a career development coach and founder of DefineYourCareer.com.  I have decades of experience in helping individuals and businesses define their greatest value and to find their purpose.

My entire career discovery approach centers around 5 factors that identify your career destiny. These factors work regardless of your experience, background or level of education.

As I do with all my career discovery courses, let’s start with the basics. How to express your identity for a fulfilling career.

How can you express your purpose in a fulfilling life and career?

There are 5 factors that together manifest your career destiny. These 5 factors are the best way to express your purpose. 

Many people cite using their talents as the main requirement for a fulfilling career. However in my decades of experience and research, I’ve found that talents are just one factor to what to do with your life.

I’ve identified the five factors that are guaranteed to define a fulfilling career purpose:

  1. Aligning your identity values and beliefs – so you can be free of conflict and anxiety to express your identity

  2. Learn how best to apply your talents – to generate your maximum market value and job satisfaction

  3. Define: who is the audience you are meant to serve? This provides employment satisfaction

  4. What is the peer work community you most enjoy – for comradery and workplace support

  5. Identify the workday lifestyle you will thrive in – to live in harmonious work/life environment

Together these 5 factors guarantee the fulfilling employment that serves your life purpose.

They are the key to finding the career that expresses your identity values, and working in the employment you are meant for.            

The first thing we assess is to identify your values and beliefs, because they express your identity.

Your values – what are the rules you live by?


Values are hardwired to your subconscious mind, they are your survival mechanism

  • Your values are the rules you live by

  • They control how you filter what happens in the world

  • Values automatically direct how you proceed, just like a stoplight’s green, amber or red light: “Go!” “Caution!” or “Stop!”

By understanding what rules you live by, you can be in better alignment with your identity.

Your beliefs – the expression of your values


Your beliefs are the emotional expression of your values. Beliefs control all your behavior and your emotions.

  • Beliefs control how you feel about relationships, employment, retirement etc.

  • A group of beliefs is a mindset

  • Beliefs guide how you make decisions about your career, money and lifestyle choices

  • We all carry childhood and adult wounds, these can generate limiting beliefs that scare us to live in fear and develop mindsets that can block us from actualizing our purpose

This meme explains how beliefs are expressions of your values (mental rules).

Values meme: how your values and rules (your identity) shape your life and career beliefs

How your values shape your beliefs

This values meme shows you a visualization about how your rules (your values) are expressed as beliefs.

Earlier we said that your purpose is an expression of your identity. Your identity is made up of your values and rules.

  • Everything that happens to you – from outside stimuli and life events to your thoughts inside – are filtered through your values/rules 

  • These identity values are expressed as beliefs about money, career and relationships are an expression of how your values have filtered the world  

I want you to notice the text cloud at bottom right: Limiting beliefs that may be holding you back.

You may have limiting beliefs that are quietly holding you back from your purpose. They may conflict with your values,  confusing you, making you feel stuck, uncertain or sad.

Eliminating limiting beliefs are a key to ending the stress, anxiety and uncertainty you are feeling.

Removing them enables you to end the feeling of “I don’t know what to do with my life or career” and finally manifest your purpose. 

Luckily you can eliminate limiting beliefs and cultivate positive beliefs in 4 to 6 weeks with my courses.

One great resource for eliminating limiting beliefs is addressed in my worksheet to help eliminate negative self talk. It explains the connection of negative self talk to limiting beliefs.

You can get it here for free:

You don't have to change who you are to manifest your career purpose

Luckily, you don’t have to change who you are to manifest your purpose. You just have to assess how to express your identity.  

This is why I cannot stress enough the importance of eliminating limiting beliefs. They can block the expression of your purpose!

If you learn to cultivate beliefs that express who you are, you change how you look at the world. The world then changes how it looks at you.

It will gladly assist you to manifest the destiny and purpose you are meant for.

Change how you see the world, and you change how the world sees you

The world will gladly assist you to manifest your purpose – once you define what it is

Final Thoughts: a better way to unlock what to do with your life and career

Identifying how to express your purpose in your employment will provide your answer to what to do with your life. 

Because typically, when you define the employment you are meant for it also defines who you are.

My one week home study course, Define Your Career Destiny focuses on one goal: to help you identify your career purpose, regardless of your experience, background or level of education.

My free career discovery guide, How to Unlock Your Career Destiny, shows you how this self-assessment process works. Enter your name and email and I’ll send you a copy instantly.

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